There once lived a great warrior. Though quite old, he still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended far and wide throughout the land and many students gathered to study under him. One day an infamous young warrior arrived at the village. He was determined to be the first man to defeat the – Read More –
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March 11, 2013
THE GIFT OF INSULTS
March 11, 2013
DISCIPLINE AND PRACTICE
“Do not think that you can attain total awareness and whole enlightenment without proper discipline and practice. This is egomania. Appropriate rituals channel your emotions and life energy toward the light. Without the discipline to practice them, you will tumble constantly into darkness.” – Lao-tzu Knowledge can never become wisdom without practice. Masters become masters – Read More –
March 11, 2013
PATIENCE
It is said that in a great storm, the wise bird returns to her nest and waits patiently. So often, we feel pressure (internal and/or external) to meet a deadline or make things happen immediately. We may force things together that don’t fit or rudely cut someone off in our rush to go there and do that. When – Read More –
March 11, 2013
INFINITE POSSIBILITIES
It is pretty heady stuff to be told that you have “infinite possibilities” or “unlimited potential.” What do you do with something like that? Where do you start? As with everything, taking a deep breath first is the best idea. Calm yourself down and don’t get overwhelmed by the reality that you really could do – Read More –
March 9, 2013
WHAT IF MONEY WAS NO OBJECT?
“What do you really want to do? DO THAT…forget the money. If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You will be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living…that is to go on doing things you don’t like – Read More –
March 9, 2013
LIVE YOUR LIFE
March 9, 2013
CHILL
“At the center of your being you have the answer: you know who you are and what you want.” -Lao-tzu You must relax to reach your center. Close your eyes, clear your mind and breathe deeply…and then ask yourself: What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? Next, write it down – Read More –
March 8, 2013
SAGE ADVICE: ANXIOUS HUSBAND
DEAR SAGE: How do you get your wife to slowdown? My wife has been working 7-day weeks most weeks for a few months. I realize the need to stay on “top of her game,” especially during peak season can create unusual demands; however, I would like her to get more R & R beyond date night dinner, movies, etc. Any suggestions that don’t include exotic vacations?
DEAR ANXIOUS HUSBAND: Thank you for your note! It is lovely to have a husband reach out on behalf of his wife! The simple answer to your question, “How do you get your wife to slowdown,” is you can’t. Now, since I know is probably not the golden advice you were expecting, please allow me to elaborate:
Despite the all of the hours she is currently working, there is an underlying force driving her. She may be doing this to “stay on top of her game” as you say; she could be concerned about her job security; or she could be enjoying herself. Sometimes when a person is in the zone and is able to watch their efforts result in progress, there is a unique thrill that is attached. She may not have a clear understanding of what is causing her to work so hard, so probing is not the solution. Your support and positive feedback is what she really needs. You may share different expectations about what is best for her, so you have to relax your expectations. She must feel free to live her life in a way that feels good to her. If she shares what’s really driving her, you must be prepared to listen compassionately and just provide support. I know it can be difficult for a man to hear his wife speak without offering advice, but often women just want to be heard not advised. Let her know that you are confident she will make the right choice and allow her to work it out on her own. (If she asks for your advice, you then have a green light to proceed.)