If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.

Because if you pick it up it dies,

and it ceases to be what you love.

Love is not about possession.

Love is about appreciation.


I appreciate this wisdom from Osho so much. It seems that so often in relationships, people create this concept of possession. You are “my” boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, friend, child, etc. and this translates into expected behaviors.

Freedom to just be gets lost…and instead there’s constant role playing to try to match who the other person wants you to be…or expecting a person to change based on who you want them to be. It can be as simple as you wanting them to change their hair or clothes…and can escalate to defining their behaviors, choices and expected actions. This is all selfish and based on what you want instead of appreciating the person as they are.

How can we do more to love people as they are?


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