It is pretty heady stuff to be told that you have “infinite possibilities” or “unlimited potential.” What do you do with something like that? Where do you start? As with everything, taking a deep breath first is the best idea. Calm yourself down and don’t get overwhelmed by the reality that you really could do – Read More –
“What do you really want to do? DO THAT…forget the money. If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You will be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living…that is to go on doing things you don’t like – Read More –
“At the center of your being you have the answer: you know who you are and what you want.” -Lao-tzu You must relax to reach your center. Close your eyes, clear your mind and breathe deeply…and then ask yourself: What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? Next, write it down – Read More –
DEAR SAGE: How do you get your wife to slowdown? My wife has been working 7-day weeks most weeks for a few months. I realize the need to stay on “top of her game,” especially during peak season can create unusual demands; however, I would like her to get more R & R beyond date night dinner, movies, etc. Any suggestions that don’t include exotic vacations?
DEAR ANXIOUS HUSBAND: Thank you for your note! It is lovely to have a husband reach out on behalf of his wife! The simple answer to your question, “How do you get your wife to slowdown,” is you can’t. Now, since I know is probably not the golden advice you were expecting, please allow me to elaborate:
Despite the all of the hours she is currently working, there is an underlying force driving her. She may be doing this to “stay on top of her game” as you say; she could be concerned about her job security; or she could be enjoying herself. Sometimes when a person is in the zone and is able to watch their efforts result in progress, there is a unique thrill that is attached. She may not have a clear understanding of what is causing her to work so hard, so probing is not the solution. Your support and positive feedback is what she really needs. You may share different expectations about what is best for her, so you have to relax your expectations. She must feel free to live her life in a way that feels good to her. If she shares what’s really driving her, you must be prepared to listen compassionately and just provide support. I know it can be difficult for a man to hear his wife speak without offering advice, but often women just want to be heard not advised. Let her know that you are confident she will make the right choice and allow her to work it out on her own. (If she asks for your advice, you then have a green light to proceed.)
It happens all the time in heaven, and someday it will begin to happen again on earth — that men and women who are married, and men and men who love, and women and women who give each other light, often will get down on their knees, and while so tenderly holding their lover’s hand, – Read More –
